Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That adage was confirmed when First Focus and Highlights asked kids recently to tell us how they felt about the new school year.

While many who had done virtual school during the first year of the pandemic had found things to like about it (staying in their pajamas all day, for instance), they also learned that, as 5 year-old Leena put it, “it is more fun to learn together.” When we asked how kids felt as they were preparing to go back to school, they reported only one emotion more frequently than being nervous—excitement.

Many kids did express concerns about their safety, but they were also eager to see their teachers and their friends. It is these relationships they said they missed most as students learning at home. Of course, teachers have known all along that school is the fertile ground where kids learn to grow connections with others, and an understanding of themselves.

It is why in on-going challenging conditions—with new regulations, threats of illness, and the operational hurdles presented by quarantines—teachers have pulled together across the country to create new routines, welcome back the anxious and the excited alike, and find new ways to forge ahead.

It is this effort, this love, and this on-going commitment to children that leads students like 8-year-old Tristan to tell us that the one thing he wants grownups to know about kids going back to school in person is that it is “like heaven.”

This year, Teachers’ Day just doesn’t feel like enough, does it? Let’s declare it Teachers’ Year. How can we do that? By showing extra patience, offering extra grace, and knowing in our hearts that as unpredictable, stressful, and hectic as this school year might be, teachers are doing their very best to make more students feel like 6-year-old Amilya, who is happy to go back to school because, she says, “School is fun.” Let’s join them in making it so.
 

The terrorist attacks on American soil on 9/11/2001 changed the world forever. Among those experiencing our collective trauma were children, in shock and fearful.  Some of these kids wrote letters to Highlights to express their sorrow and confusion. Some sent us poems they’d written, seeming to intuit that their memory of this event needed to be captured and preserved in a deep and lasting way. Other children sent drawings, which didn’t require training as an art therapist to understand that they were expressing really big feelings.  
We can’t help but wonder how these kids are doing today, 20 years later.  

Some researchers say that—except for those children who suffered the immeasurable loss of a loved one and for those who were in and near the areas of the attacks—most kids did not show longer-term symptoms of distress.  Although shaken in the moment and perhaps for some time to come, most of the children showed remarkable resilience. They adapted to how the country changed and do not appear to have suffered deep, emotional scarring. One study suggests that the horrific attacks did influence some kids’ world view in a measurable way. About 20 percent of those surveyed said the event led them to choose careers in fields such as politics, public policy, and the military. But for the majority of children, this defining event may not have truly defined them.

Generations of Highlights kids have lived through traumatic events in America and have written to us over the decades as they tried to process their emotions. We have letters from children who, at a formative age, felt deeply the horror of John F. Kennedy’s assassination, the Oklahoma City bombing, the first mass school shooting at Columbine, and the explosion of the Challenger spaceship. Their grief and fear are clear in the letters, poems, and drawings, some of which are shared in the book Dear Highlights: What Adults Can Learn From 75 Years of Letters and Conversations with Kids. We responded to these children, just as we respond to every child who has ever written to us—with empathy, validation, and reassurance.

Through our decades of correspondence with children, we’ve come to see that kids don’t necessarily expect us to have clear answers about a tragedy in its aftermath, but they trust us to tell them the truth and reassure them that they don’t have to fear that truth.  Good still exists in the world, we tell them every time, and many people are fighting for it, with courage and resolve.

As much as it pains us, we can’t fully protect kids from the experiences that reveal all too well evil and suffering. But if we adults step up to listen to kids’ thoughts and feelings and show them how to choose hope over despair, we help them build the resilience they need to thrive.
 

I was fortunate as a child to have had a loving, attentive family. But like many tweens, I was uncomfortable sharing everything with my parents. Luckily, I had other caring adults in my life, including a favorite uncle. Temperamentally, he and I were a lot alike—quiet and introspective. A single man who farmed for a living, he spent most of the non-growing season reading near a wood stove—and answering my letters to him. Not regularly but often, I’d drop him a line, sharing the mundane facts of my everyday life and, more to the point, some big questions that mystified me: Why are we here? Why do bad things happen to good people? What should I do with my life?  You know, simple little answerable questions like that.

He always wrote back.

Rather than offering definitive answers to my philosophical wonderings, he sent back comments and questions to keep me thinking. But even more important was what rode along in every return envelope: validation. Validation in the form of a clear YES to the questions I didn’t even realize I was asking: Does what I think and feel matter? Do I matter?

Little wonder then, that when I joined Highlights and learned of the company’s long-held practice of answering every child who writes to the magazine, I was surprised and delighted.

This summer, we’re celebrating 75 years of engaging with kids—millions at a time with our magazines and one-on-one with letters. Our tradition of replying to every child created an ongoing, authentic dialogue with kids. We write to them in the spirit they write to us—as a dear, trusted friend.

The letters from years past touch on the same broad spectrum of childhood concerns as the letters we receive today. Kids write to us about school, friends, and family matters. They write about their hopes and dreams, and their worries and fears. They ask, “What should I do?” “What do you think?” The world has changed significantly, but the way children grow has changed very little. Kids navigating the ups and downs of childhood still seek support and guidance from caring adults.

In our replies, we offer helpful suggestions. But most importantly, we listen with curiosity and empathy. We want kids to feel heard. We want to answer those unspoken, fundamental questions embedded in every letter to us, no matter the topic: Does what I think and feel matter? Do I matter?

The treasure trove of correspondence we’ve amassed is a testament to the depth and complexity of childhood. Recently, we spent many hours poring over thousands of letters preserved in a special collection at The Ohio State University. Some letters made us laugh. Others left a lump in our throat. All of them deepened our appreciation of childhood as a time of heavy lifting for kids. They reinforced our belief in the importance of listening to whatever kids want to tell us.

The tendency to ignore or dismiss the perspectives of kids is as old as childhood itself. But in the din of today’s rapidly changing, complex world—where even the best-intentioned adults can find it hard to be fully present and attentive—the voices of kids are too easily muted or dismissed. We wanted to amplify kids’ voices, and share what we’ve learned that has allowed us to serve them better. We've just published a carefully curated collection of kids’ letters, emails, poems, and drawings in our first book for grown-ups: Dear Highlights: What Adults Can Learn from 75 Years of Letters and Conversations with Kids.

As the letters selected for this anthology attest, kids are hungry for an attentive ear, and they crave more meaningful connections. As we look back over the many confidences children entrusted to us in the last 75 years, our birthday wish is that the perspectives offered in this volume will touch adult readers as much as they touched us.

We hope this book will serve as an enduring reminder to encourage kids to share their thoughts, and to listen with an open heart and mind. Only then can we realize our shared vision for a more empathetic and optimistic world. A world where children—the world’s most important people—can become their best selves: curious, creative, caring, and confident.

It’s been one year since we all downshifted into various levels of quarantine—an anniversary we may not want to celebrate, but one worth noting. Although (and especially because) we’re still waiting for life to return to some semblance of “normal,” this is a good time to pause and reflect on the past twelve months.

For parents, a look-back includes considering how the experience has affected our kids. None of us will forget it, but for kids especially the pandemic will leave an indelible impression. It is their generation’s universally shared experience that will lead them as adults to ask one another their version of the familiar question, “Where were YOU when…?”

But what are kids themselves saying?

Throughout the past year, Highlights has received many letters, emails, drawings, and poems from kids who want to share their thoughts and feelings about the pandemic. Their correspondence reveals worry and concern, as well as remarkable resilience. We recently revisited our reader mail to glean a few reminders of ways grown-ups can help shore up kids’ well-being through what continues to be a challenging time.

• Kids want and need to talk about what they are experiencing.

Most kids can sense when something big is going down, even when their grown-ups are trying to protect them by distracting them or withholding information. Many have questions and crave a listening ear. Exactly how much information they want or need depends upon their developmental age, but rarely do young kids want to hear detailed answers to their questions. More often, they want to share their thoughts and feelings (both!), feel heard, and know that they are not alone. Like many of the kids we heard from, ten-year-old Nick was dealing with a tangle of emotions. He wrote, “Ever since this COVID19 stuff started, I’ve been feeling a little scared, worried, impatient, sad, and mad. I just want it to stop. ”Eight-year-old Owen admitted he was mad and scared. “How should I feel?” he asked.

And when they ask for information, kids expect truthfulness. One reader was explicit about this in the email she sent, writing, “I need an HONEST answer. Are we gonna go back to school before the end of the year? I am 11, and I really want to finish 5th grade. Can you give me an honest answer, please?”

• Kids can accept disappointment, but they don’t want to feel helpless.

Kids have had to deal with all kinds of disappointments. They have written about missing friends in and out of school, canceled holiday gatherings with families, low-key birthday celebrations, and more. Some of kids’ disappointments may seem small to adults but loom large to kids, such as Charlotte’s disappointment that the early closing of school meant she was unable to ask friends to autograph her kindergarten yearbook. Another reader, a candidate for class president, was deeply disappointed that he didn’t get to deliver his campaign speech because school closed abruptly.

But most of these kids aren’t simply complaining. Nearly all their messages suggest they are looking for a call to action. “Can you help me?” “What can I do?” “Do you have any ideas for me?” They may look to others to spark some creative thinking, but they are ready to put their problem-solving skills to work to regain some control and make themselves feel better. Luke, for example, was eager to lean into his own creativity to create an at-home sports competition when his parents wouldn’t let him participate in a public event because of the virus. Some kids found positivity in being productive. Nine-year-old Corbin wrote, “The whole world is shut down and being home is boring.” But he added, “There is always something to do. Read a book, do the dishes, and, if you live on a farm, milk cows. (I do.)”

• Kids don’t want to simply look for the helpers; they also want to BE the helpers.

Kids are watching and listening to us, catching more of the news than we sometimes realize. And when they see the suffering of others, kids lead with empathy and try to help.

Eleven-year-old Beau in Tennessee wrote, “The coronavirus virus is a tough time for many people. I want to do something to help people in need. Do you have any ideas?” An eight-year-old from Massachusetts wrote to ask for help in making his brother “feel good” as he celebrates his birthday in quarantine. Another eight-year-old, Troy, asked us to help him spread the news about the “daily challenges, tricks, and comedy” he created on YouTube for kids “stuck inside during this scary time.”

Seeing need all around them, kids become opportunists in the best possible way. And they discover that providing help to others also helps themselves.

• I’m OK, You’re OK: Parents Are a Barometer for Kids

It bears repeating: young kids look to adults for clues about how they should feel. If kids see parents managing their emotions well, those kids are more likely to be successful regulating their own complex feelings. They’re more likely to comply with mask-wearing and social distancing—to accept the things they cannot change and work to change what they can.

Julia wrote to say that her father, a doctor, insisted that she stay home with the family to be safe. She missed spending time with friends, “But sometimes we ride bikes with masks,” she wrote. “And we can still play. It’s fine.”

“It’s fine” is something kids have told us in different ways. “You might think school will never reopen; And you might just sit around moping / But I know better / Nothing lasts forever,” one child wrote in a poem. “We’re in this together,” kids have said, repeating what others have said to them and working hard to believe it.

• The Key Ingredient in Pandemic Fun Is You

A year spent staying safer at home has recalibrated our excitement meter, arguably for the better. Unable to plan a special day trip, an elaborate birthday party, or an extraordinary vacation, we had to fall back on the simpler pleasures in life for entertainment. Both kids and parents have told us that a possible silver lining to the pandemic may be a newfound appreciation for the slower pace it forced and for the abundance of small moments it provided that helped families feel close and offered a surprising dollop of joy.

From backyard scavenger hunts and stargazing to cooking and reading together to snuggling on the sofa with popcorn and a movie, young kids seem to appreciate almost any activity they engaged in with a parent who was fully present in the moment. True, some families committed to bigger efforts, as seen on social media. But for most kids, it has been more than enough to have a parent who, perhaps unwittingly, made kids feel safe and who strengthened the family bond by simply making low-key family time a priority.

What has been your family’s experience during quarantine? Are you concerned about your child’s well-being? How are you hoping to help your family see this experience through? I’d love to hear from you. Send comments to: Christine@highlights.com.

I had almost forgotten just how feather-light hope is, and how easy it is to carry. Today I’m full of hope.

After all the uncertainty and sadness wrought by the pandemic, several years of looking down into the deep abyss created by the way we have expressed our political differences, our ongoing fight for social justice, and the insurrection at the U.S. Capitol just a few weeks ago—hope, like a feather fluttering in a battering wind, feels as if it could too easily escape my grasp.

That’s when I look to children—an unfailing source of hope and optimism. Children—our collective future. Children—the world’s most important people, as we say here at Highlights.

Do you think kids aren’t watching us? Do you think they are unable or unwilling to engage in conversations about big ideas and complex problems? Think again.

Lean in and listen to the kids in this video montage—kids who have been watching us grapple with all the challenges that lie before us. Listen as they read their letters to our elected officials. Lean in to learn about the issues that matter most to them. Feel their passion. Sense their empathy. Hear their reminder that we are accountable to them, if we are serious about helping them grow to become their best selves: curious, creative, caring, and confident.

These kids are holding our feet to the fire while they grow and learn and prepare to someday help heal the world themselves—to make it a better place for the generation that comes after them. They are asking grown-ups, “How will you help me?” And even as we make plans to help—asking ourselves every step of the way, “Is this good for the children?”—we too are helped by looking to them for the inspiration, hope, and optimism they exude.

They believe we can do better and expect that we will, and so we must.

So your candidate won the election. Or lost the election. In the aftermath, you're probably sorting through a tangle of intense thoughts and feelings. But know this: Our kids are watching. And they are picking up on what they see at home, on the news, and in their communities. Too often what they’re hearing and seeing are strong expressions of anger, fear, and despair. The events of yesterday when a threatening mob successfully stormed the U.S. Capitol certainly confused and frightened many children.

But kids can also, just as easily, absorb feelings of trust, hope, and optimism. After a highly contentious campaign season and in a post-election period that finds us still deeply divided as a nation, we best serve our kids if we Stay Calm and Parent On.

Perhaps you’ve been talking to your kids about the election. You’ve explained the importance of voting and what it means to be an engaged citizen. You’ve talked about your choice candidates and how their ideas and policies mesh with your personal values. You’ve talked about what has transpired. These are all important conversations to have with kids, especially if this is the first election they’ve observed with interest.

Now, it’s time to help your kids understand how to move forward. It’s time for conversations about empathy and the importance of treating every person with kindness and respect. It’s time to talk with your kids about what it means to win with grace and lose with dignity. It’s time to show them with our own actions how to mend fences and build bridges.

Certainly it’s easier to talk about these values than it is to live them. These past several months, the bar for civil discourse and good behavior has rested at a deeply concerning low. Grown-ups may be forgiven for feeling a little cynical and too depleted to hoist themselves back up on the high road. But as parents working to help kids become the best version of themselves, we must lead by example and demonstrate the behavior we want our kids to emulate. We must call out bad behavior by adults and help kids understand why it is wrong.

Setting aside the negativity that may pull us like a magnet, let’s seize the chance to help our kids move forward with optimism. Let’s show them how to relate to others—even to those with whom they disagree—with care and sensitivity. Let’s return to the basic building blocks of civility with these seven simple steps you can share with your kids to help them get started.   

1. Assume good intentions.
2. Remember that there are many different ways of seeing the same thing.
3. Listen with kindness and respect to friends who see things differently.
4. Don’t call people names or bully them.
5. Find common ground. There’s always common ground.
6. Agree to disagree on the rest.
7. Never forget that every human is sacred.

Seven simple, clear steps that will lead us to the high road. Let’s get moving.

“Why are the children shown in my child’s magazine wearing masks?” This is a question some parents of our readers are asking us in emails and letters and on our social sites. They also ask, “Have you consulted with medical professionals about this decision?” “Why aren’t you being more protective of our children, instead of rubbing their noses in this awful mess?” And even “Does Highlights have a political agenda?”

Many months into the pandemic and as this “awful mess” in the U.S. reaches crisis proportion, we feel it’s important to share how we arrived at the decision to depict children wearing masks when we show them in situations that would require taking that precaution.

Although we know many readers save our magazines to read and reread, a magazine is different from a book, in part because its shelf life is shorter. That’s part of the purpose of a magazine: to deliver reading material that is fresh and new each month—content that reflects the reader’s current world.

Last spring, when the pandemic hit in earnest and much of the country was staying safer at home, our readers let us know that their current reality wasn’t being depicted in Highlights and High Five. They wondered why the children in illustrations and photos weren’t wearing masks or why families weren’t shown practicing social distancing. “Our kids need to know that they are not alone in this,” one reader’s mother told us. “My child expected Highlights to acknowledge and support her efforts to be responsible,” wrote another. We wrote back and explained that because of our long lead times and the suddenness with which the world changed, it would take a few months before we could show on our pages these new, important health practices.

And when we were finally able to begin incorporating these ideas into Highlights, we started to receive complaints of a different sort. We heard from other loving parents who took a different view of the issue. They worried that we were frightening their children and trying to normalize behavior they didn’t feel should be normalized. They objected to our portrayal of what they felt were unnecessary practices. A few subscribers sent us links to sites discussing the wearing of masks and disseminating points of view at odds with science.

We wrote back to these parents too, explaining that we believe children deserve to see the world as it really is and that our current reality, when properly presented, doesn’t frighten kids. We explained that we see our magazines as more than simply entertainment. We work to create magazines that parents will find useful as they do their job of helping kids make sense of what they’re seeing in the world around them. We create content that inspires kids to be their best selves and suggests a call-to-action to kids who, despite their youth, can make a difference.

As we, as a society, try to come together and function as safely as we can during this health crisis, we want to share what we learned from the children’s health experts we consulted about our editorial approach to the pandemic. Here are four key points.

Wearing masks is one of the best defenses against COVID-19, and kids need to wear them too.

Medical experts told us that children ages 2 and up should wear masks in public, provided they are physically able to take their mask off themselves. Data shows that simply wearing a mask can decrease transmission of COVID-19 by 80 percent. When you combine that with at least 3 to 6 feet of distance, it can decrease transmission by 95 percent.

Dr. Tanya Altmann, a spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics, told us, “Everyone, children included, will need to wear masks until we get this virus under control. The vaccine will help with that, but it will take time to get enough people vaccinated and see the COVID case numbers come down to where we can stop wearing masks.”

Nearly all children can wear masks safely.

Some of the parents we heard from said they worry that mask wearing is detrimental to their kids’ development because kids need to see whole faces. According to Dr. Dipesh Navsaria, a practicing pediatrician and expert in children’s literacy, there is no data to back up this concern, and in fact, researchers worldwide who study children’s development of facial recognition agree. “Kids see faces at home—the faces of their family, faces in photographs, and on television and in books.” He said that when kids see faces partially covered in masks, they easily compensate, relying more on voice, tone, and eyes to communicate. “The concern is only valid in a few particular cases,” he said, “such as children who are deaf or speech-delayed.”

Jennifer Miller, M.Ed.,—founder of Confident Parents Confident Kids, researcher, and specialist in kids’ social-emotional development—agreed. She added that parents can help their kids compensate by coaching them to “look for the smiles in people’s eyes and even practice communicating with masks on.”

“When we teach our children to wear masks,” she said, “we are doing more than protecting their health and the health of others. We are also helping them develop valuable social-emotional skills that are vital in school and in life—skills related to self-management, social awareness, and responsible decision-making.”

With few exceptions, wearing a mask is not difficult for children.

A preschool or school-age child can learn that doctors believe they will stay safe from the virus and keep others safe by wearing a mask. “If parents tell kids in simple terms that masks help protect us all, and if they see other kids wearing masks, kids see that they can do that,” said Dr. Navsaria. He believes that the perception that kids have trouble wearing masks is more about kids’ ability to pick up their parents’ fears and disappointments. The biggest issue he sees in getting kids to wear masks is parents’ own reactions. “It’s more about their parents’ sense of loss and sadness,” he said. “We are mourning the loss of innocence for our kids.” He reminds parents to be aware that they may be projecting their fear and disappointment, which may be upsetting to their children.

“If anything, children may bring a positive bias to masks, since dress up and costumes have long been a part of children’s play,” said Jennifer Miller. “However, if a parent begrudgingly wears one or expresses disgust or anger with the mask or talks about it as a nuisance, then a child is likely to view it in the same way. If parents or caregivers discuss the importance of the mask based on good science to keep us all safe, children will perceive it similarly.”

Dr. Altmann believes that kids across the country and around the world have been doing fine wearing masks. “They still can learn, recognize their friends, interact, and play while wearing masks. They forget it’s on their face, and it just becomes the norm after a week and doesn’t bother them.”

Dr. Altmann said that her five-year-old daughter adjusted to mask wearing in part by putting masks on her stuffed animals. “I tell kids, ‘A mask is like a seatbelt. It helps protect you. Right now there is a virus going around that is making people sick, so doing things like wearing a mask, staying apart from friends, and washing hands can help keep us from getting the virus.’”

Even kids who don’t wear masks benefit from seeing other kids wear masks.

A few parents felt that showing kids in masks was meaningless to their children who were living in circumstances that didn’t seem to require mask wearing. We brought this up with Dr. Navsaria, who also holds an advanced degree in children’s librarianship, and he talked about mirrors and windows—a metaphor often used in conversations about the importance of diverse books. When books and magazines show kids who look like them, doing things they also do, those books and magazines provide kids with a mirror, he said, reinforcing kids’ sense of belonging. And when literature shows mask-wearing kids to readers who don’t wear masks, it gives those readers a window, allowing them to look out from their own experience and see a more realistic depiction of what the world looks like for others. Providing both mirrors and windows is one way we help build empathy in kids.

These recommendations align with the Highlights mission of helping kids be their best selves, and we’ve used them to inform our work. Like all of you, we look forward to the day when health officials say that the coronavirus is no longer such a serious threat. But in the meantime, Highlights will continue to depict children (and sometimes anthropomorphic animals representing children) wearing face coverings in situations that would require them.

For more tips on mask use for kids, visit HealthyChildren.org.

How are young kids feeling about the election? What messages are they hearing in the growing political cacophony? Here’s what we have heard from a few Highlights readers: 

“I’m really scared about the turnout of the presidential election,” a reader wrote in an email. “My friends talk about it all the time, and it makes me really uncomfortable.” 

Another child, Avery, wrote to Highlights saying, “I’m an extreme Republican and other kids bully me about it. . . . Help!” 

Pennsylvania third-grader Will says he is pestering his mother to buy him a t-shirt that supports the presidential candidate he hopes will win. 

Confused and worried or engaged and excited, young kids are paying attention to politics. They catch snippets of the news, overhear adult conversations, and argue about the election with friends. Kids don’t miss much—although they are often better observers than interpreters. That’s why it’s incumbent upon parents to step in—to correct misunderstandings, to allay fears, and, most importantly, to encourage their kids to become civic-minded. 

Politics has always made for challenging parent-child conversations. And in an election season like 2020, when it seems that the only thing the country can agree upon is that the country is deeply divided, these discussions can be especially daunting. Yet, to avoid the subject because it feels so fraught is to miss the opportunity to expose your kids to a few big ideas that go beyond politics—ideas that can help them develop an optimistic worldview. A worldview that includes an understanding of what it means to be a member of a community. A worldview that includes a belief in the good intentions of others and in their own ability to make the world a better place. 

Begin by Checking In 

If your child hasn’t broached the subject of the election with you, it’s time to check in. A good way to open the door to conversation is with a few simple questions: “What have you heard about the election? How do you feel about the candidates? Is anything concerning or confusing to you?” Then lean in and listen. You may be surprised by what you hear, and by the strong emotions that bubble up—perhaps in both of you. If you think staying calm and collected might be tough, take a walk while you talk, or find another time when you can be fully present and relaxed. 

Use Simple Language 

Set the table for a deeper conversation by starting with a simple truth. Using a metaphor young kids can understand, talk about the similarities between being a family member and being a good citizen—two roles that come with expectations for interacting with and caring for others. Explain voting as one of the important responsibilities of citizenship and the primary way we influence the decisions our local, state, and federal government makes—decisions that shape our lives. When kids, who often feel powerless, understand the impact of voting (and see you voting), they will be more likely to think of themselves as future voters—as people with agency. They will see voting as a way of taking action and making their thoughts heard. They will see the value in their own voice. 

Lean into Your Family’s Values 

That’s the easy part! What’s harder is helping them see that the voices of others also have value. Most young kids adopt the political views of their parents, and they tend to think their parents know best. While this conversation is a chance to restate your family’s values and tie them to your political views, it is also an opportunity to point out that listening to different opinions is a way to show kindness and respect, even when we don’t agree. 

Help your kids also see another compelling reason to listen respectfully to other points of view: doing so leads us to examine our own convictions more closely. Sometimes this results in strengthening our beliefs, and sometimes it alters how we see an issue. In a world where politicians tend to stick hard and fast to their talking points, even in the face of new information, it’s good to remind kids (and ourselves) that a change of mind is OK when new facts emerge. 

Reinforce Critical Thinking Skills 

Although your kids may be too young to do more than repeat what they hear you saying, they can benefit from hearing how you decide what to believe. Again, keep it simple. Talk about the importance of asking questions and the need for fact-checking. Explain how you judge the reliability of news sources. These are critical-thinking tools kids need to evaluate all kinds of information. 

Use Bad Examples to Teach 

In the interest of fairness, point out that candidates in all parties can misrepresent facts or engage in hyperbole—sometimes for political gain and sometimes unintentionally out of passion. Certainly, we’ve seen plenty of bad behaviors from politicians, from name-calling and mockery to bullying. When your child sees this, make it a teachable moment. Letting it go without comment helps normalize it. Call it out as inappropriate, lest your child thinks you condone it. Remind kids that people in power sometimes fail to model the behavior we hope children will emulate. 

Help Them Connect the Dots 

Although it may be the news-making drama that first catches your child’s interest, resolve to focus mostly on the issues. As our reader mail regularly reminds us, even young kids have hopes and dreams for the world we inhabit. They write to us about climate change, social injustice, public health in the time of COVID, quality education, and more. What concern resonates with your child? Learning about the candidates’ positions on an issue your child cares about is a concrete way to connect the dots between their idealism and the power of voting. 

Yes, your child is too young to vote. But your child is not too young to decide to become a voter when it’s time. By talking now about the importance of being a responsible citizen and an informed voter, you help them see that they can be changemakers. You stoke their confidence, strengthen their voice, and help them build empathy and optimism for a world that that only gets better when thoughtful citizens engage.